When We Wear The Mask

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I work nearly every day with moms struggling to keep it together.  They wear the "mask" during the day--you know, the mask that covers what's really going on underneath. And when asked, they answer, "I'm fine, how are you?"  They even engage in a laugh or two with friends, go home and blog about the chaos that is their life. They poke fun at their overwhelm and vent with humor.  This is good, … [Read more...]

Pity Pot?

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I've been on the hot seat more than a few times since I suggested that moms experience grief when their sense of self deteriorates in all the work, responsibilities, and undesirable changes associated with becoming a mom.  And I do think that a HUGE number of mothers feel as though their sense of self took a big hit after they had kids.  But are they grieving?  Well, I've had a few moms tell me to … [Read more...]

It’s So Overwhelming

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Overwhelmed doesn't quite say it all, right?  The other day I told a friend it's like I got on the wrong bus...and she knew exactly what I meant.  I thought I was going one place, but I ended up in some foreign land.  I stepped off the bus, confused, anxious, and thought, "where the hell am I?"  Becoming a mom can be a mixed bag of realities.  On one hand, you're blown away by the beautiful … [Read more...]

Happy Mother’s Day

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“The loving mother teaches her child to walk alone. She is far enough from him so that she cannot actually support him, but she holds out her arms to him. She imitates his movements, and if he totters, she swiftly bends as if to seize him, so that the child might believe he is not walking alone . . . . And yet, she does more. Her face beckons like a reward, an encouragement. Thus, the child walks … [Read more...]

When It’s Not PPD, What Is It?

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When you’re feeling depressed or overwhelmed, maybe irritable or “trapped” and you know its not post-partum depression because your children are at least two years old, then what is it? What’s wrong? And why do so many mothers struggle with this…umm…”condition”? I’ve spent the last seven years looking into this, and I want to share what I’ve found beneath the lighthearted (sometimes sarcastic, … [Read more...]